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By Julia Sadeh -

Life coaching? hm, what a strange concept. Or is it?

After all, life is so precious, perhaps it should come with a guide that instructs you how to use your precious time, and how not to waste it by making irreversible mistakes.

I can?t decide whether life coaching is a good idea, or a sad, ridiculous one. Perhaps I need a coach to help me decide on this one..

What?s ridiculous about it is that some of the life coaches are so young that you can?t imagine how can they possibly give any advice when they didn?t experience life yet??

Now, seriously, I think that we made life so complicated that many of us are confused and need some guidance. There are so many choices you can make in life, so many options out there, and who knows if you chose the right one?

The answer is: you have to choose what?s RIGHT FOR YOU.

You are the only one that can decide that for yourself. No one else can coach you or decide for you the best path to take.

These are the words of a psychologist I once talked to. She amazed me when she admitted that in fact, the people that go to see psychologists are usually not capable of taking responsibility for their own life. They are unhappy and they are not sure why? They can?t think for themselves. They want someone else to think for them and give them the answers, to make decisions for them.

That was a shocking admission coming from a professional, nevertheless so true!

You are the only person that knows what makes you happy and no one else can decide for you what choice you should make?

That?s why it is so hard to define happiness. It is due to the fact that happiness is very individual and what makes you happy may not bring joy to someone else.

The state of happiness usually comes from the relation between one?s level of expectations from life versus the realization of these expectations.

So, if you wish to attain this state of well being you will need to think what things bring you joy or satisfaction, and pursue them.

Having said that, sometimes we are not sure what would make us happy, or worse, we think we know what we want but when we achieve it we realize that it didn?t make us happier? in other words, we don?t always know what?s good for us. Sometimes we think that if we could only lose 5 kilo or if we had more money we would be happier?

Amazingly, many of the things we enjoy and make most of us happy don?t cost anything: being surrounded by family or friends, creating things, discovering, learning new things (yes, learning), helping other people or animals in need, all these can bring huge satisfaction and feelings of achievement. These will give meaning to your life and enrich you with a spectrum of experiences, and will also make you feel more important. Feeling insignificant or powerless is one of our biggest enemies, and can lead to unhappiness.

Money has an interesting role in attaining happiness: whilst having money does not necessarily make you happy, the lack of it cam make you very unhappy. However some lottery winners have confessed in the past that winning the big jackpot did not make them happier, on the contrary?

Some other deeply unhappy people (some even born with the silver spoon) occasionally turn to drugs because they don?t have a focus in their life such as an occupation, and so they lack the sense of achievement that comes from doing things, creating. Some just have too much time on their hands as they have never developed any serious interests, since they never had to work? So finding a focus, a project, an activity that you enjoy or even just bringing joy to others, yes, to others, is in fact paramount to your own well being and happiness.

Julia Sadeh is a contemporary British artist best known as creator of the style mosaic and collage on canvas. After studying Visual Art and Art History, Sadeh launched her artistic career in 1989 by publishing children books with her own illustrations, followed by numerous art exhibitions. In 1993 she started developing her unique style of mosaics on canvas using ?papier glasse? an exclusive technique which makes paper more resistant. Her canvases are now found in art collections around the world and her art is innovative and unique. Julia Sadeh can be contacted at: mathias.toni@yahoo.co.uk

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